AFFAIRS… by the corner

Affairs here, affairs there why are more and more individuals especially married ones having affairs by the corner? Is someone unhappy? Is someone bewildered? Is someone bored? Or is it simply ecstasy?

In my world I think affairs are drugs with high addictions and are to be kept on security watch just like cocaine. The lies, sneaking around, the deceptions and all the dangers associated with it all add to the hunger for it. When a victim of this addiction, it is rare to see one pull out of it without being hurt, as weak and highly emotional as I am I don’t know if I‘ll ever stop an affair if I start one with a strong bond. I just wonder what may have happened and stirred up this shameful act.

Some individuals have become so addicted to their affairs, all day, every second all they think of is how they can sneak out, or how they will end the day with a huge lie. They fantasy only on how they are being spoiled with stuffs and the sex that is out of this world! Most of all they are being flattered that their partners in crime is the only listening ear they have and the only one that matters at that moment and makes them happy. When they are together in their wonderland like Alice they lose all track of time.

Let’s look around us and go through one or two stories of the endangerment of affairs, and also look into the healthy sides of this same word “AFFAIR”. Well am not saying it is good to have an affair by the corner, am simply saying they are areas attached to “affairs by the corner” that are healthy, take for instant a widow having an affair by the corner just say a months after his or her partner passes away. What do you think? Is that affair healthy or not? 

Let’s look at Tina* the heavenly girl, an orphan, yet responsible and hardworking; it took her 3yrs after school to get a job as a marketer in a bank. On that sunny day after she got in from being sexually harassed by a client, she went in straight to her boss’s office to report the incident only to be faced with another “I received a call from Mr. Lade* threatening to close his accounts, please for peace to rain, you go back and undo what you did because if he closes his accounts we all go down in this branch, have a good day miss Tina”.  She went home so unhappy and sad her uncle came back and asked her what the problem was, she explained what happened and yet received the worst answer, “who is a saint these days, you have got to shine your eyes and do better than others in other to survive." Tina left with regrets, what do you think will be her next move? Dance to the tune or stay being responsible Tina?

Sammy got a good job going with a consulting firm, and was expecting his 1^st promotion but was scared because his unit boss didn’t like him. On the other hand his overall boss in his branch a lady was so fun of him and sometimes tells him her sister was very much available and she will do all it takes to get him up there. Sammy innocently smiled at everything she said thereby taking it to be a joke. Then the deal came up; he was called by his unit boss one day and asked what he is always discussing with the boss? He said nothing serious just jokes, but she went ahead and gave him a query anyways. Who are you to argue with the boss? Then a colleague of his called him up that the overall boss needed to see him, on getting to her office he saw two pretty smiling faces. “I told you my sister was gorgeous didn’t I?” What next?

Beautiful Nneka, happily married with two kids was a staff with a well known telecom as a customer care officer, a figure so stunning like a goddess. The very first day she started work everyone wanted to be her friend, even the customers forget to close their mouths when they watch her move. In fact i will say most come with problems on purpose just to steal her time. As Nneka was coming to work on a bright morning, she meet her boss by the entrance door, he wouldn't stop smiling, "are you my staff?" "yes sir, good morning sir" little did she know that was the beginning of her troubles. From that day onward he will do everything possible to talk to her, call her into his office, send her on errands, invite her for lunch till he spelt out his intentions, she gladly told him she was married and flung her beautiful "RING" but the reply she got was heart breaking " are u the first to be? Am married, so is your unit boss and so many others or are u a kid? Who will be telling your husband about our little affair by the corner?" what do you think was Nneka's situation?

According to an article in Newsweek of July 2004 entitled “The New Infidelity” a survey on US couples showed that 40% married females were doing the by the corner dirty job on their spouses. There is also more and more confusion between men and women concerning their roles, so many women are seeing themselves through their husband’s eyes while some lazy sit at home men are hoping on their wives pockets, mostly forgetting the endangerments attached to such roles. Some reasons why married people cheat on their spouse are for excitement and adventure, companionship, romance, lust, one-night stands, revenge, escaping mundanity and… you fill in the blank space.

Affair are often level one addictions, any psychologist will tell you it's an escape from boredom and an inactive life but not all is caused by the thrill, it's a way of punishing a partner who is cheating many will say but my question still remains "THE RING"... does it really mean a thing?

NOTE: All names mentioned are not real